Everyone in their childhood must have heard this lines from their parents
‘Don’t get too close to him/ her, he will ruin you’ and most of the time we did not paid attention to this.
Well, their words might irriatate us then but they are not completely wrong. This I can say now with confidence because it is now a proven fact in Science. Lot of studies has proved that our closest people do affect our personality. Link 1, Link 2
Have you ever think ‘ why do you think, the way you think?’. And If you think it is because of your character,
then what shapes your character ?
Everyone thinks that, if he/she were born in an another country or other place he/she would have been different. Mindset would differ. So what determines our character, well lot of things but one of the major thing is the environment,where we live and grow up. And what makes the environment?. people with whom we are associated, with whom we are closest. So the key point is- the people with whom you are closely associated has a great effect on your character. Jim Rohn (an American Author,enterpreneaur) described it beautifully-
‘YOU ARE AVERAGE OF THE FIVE PEOPLE, YOU MOST CLOSELY ASSCIATED WITH‘
You cannot choose where you born or in which family you born but you can certainly choose your friends, who in turn shapes your personality. It is a common observation that succesful people don’t spend their time with negative people, who sucks a person’s willpower,hope,determination,patience which are charactersticks of a succesful person.
In the other way a positive person can fill you with hope, you feel so good with that person and life seems beautiful.
So Everybody (with commonsense) want to spend more time with a positive person.
But how do you know wheather a person is positive or negative, observe the person, observe his/her speeches, thoughts, his actions and how realistic are they.
If you feel good and energetic after having conversation (or few conversations) with him/her and not only speeches but his/her actions itself show his positive personality then most probably he/she is a optimistic person.
And a negative person just the opposite, they are like slow poison, you may not realise initially how they affects your life but they prevent you from living a life ,you always wanted to live.
So it is upto you, in which way you want to lead your life. sharpen your senses and observe people bit closely and choose the correct people in your life.
It may not seem a very important thing but in the long run it is very important because
‘ LIFE IS NOT ALWAYS EASY, SO IT IS UPTO YOU
WHEATHER YOU WANT MAKE YOUR JOURNEY EASY
BY CHOOSING THE RIGHT PEOPLE OR YOU WANT TO
MAKE YOUR JOURNEY DIFFICULT BY CHOOSING
THE WRONG ONE.’