Who is a superwoman?
This is the first thing came to my mind while starting this post. When I searched in the dictionary I found-
The definition of a superwoman is a woman with superhuman powers or a woman who performs well in her various demanding roles.
Nature has designed women in such a way, when it comes to certain roles women are more efficient. Like managing multiple things, playing different roles in life. For me every mother is superwoman. Imagine the different roles of a mother. From taking care of her children to family to other stuffs of home and sometimes even working full time in a job. That’s a lot to do at the same time. Mother’s do all these things without ever complaining. That’s why they all are superwoman.
However, the superwoman about whom I am going to talk about is neither a mother nor has some superpowers. But, instead of that she deserved to be called a superwoman for her journey and how she inspired milions across the globe to chase your dreams and live on your own terms.
I am talking about an Indo-Canadian woman named Lilly Singh. Many of you probably know her and have seen her videos on youtube. But what you probably don’t know is her journey from battling depression to highest paid female YouTuber in the world.
Lilly Saini Singh was born on September 26, 1988, and raised in Scarborough, Toronto. Her father Sukhbinder Singh and mother Malwinder Singh emigrated to Canada from Punjab, India. Growing up in childhood, Lilly was a very extrovert child who grabs attention all the time from the people. He was the center of attraction in parties or any public gatherings due to her talkative nature.
In one of his interview, Lilly said she wanted to be a power ranger and raper in childhood but her parents wanted her to be a counselor. Lilly has done her bachelors in psychology from York University, Toronto to her parents wish.
After finishing bachelors Lilly becomes worried about her future. As she didn’t want to be a counselor. Although her parents wanted her to pursue further masters in psychology, the sheer feeling of the conventional career as counselor made her anxious.
She took a one year break before pursuing anything. She was in a state of depression at that time. At one side her parents told her to do masters in psychology and on the other hand, she was not interested in psychology anymore. It reflects when she reminds those days-
I remember writing the application for my masters and then going ‘ Oh my god! I don’t even want to do these applications, how am I going to do this for four years? ’
‘ If not psychology then what I am going to do in my life” was her biggest concern. And this insecurity slowly leads her to depression. To curb her bad feeling she started making videos on youtube in the year 2010. Remember YouTube is not that famous at that time and one cannot think it as a source of living. Many of her friends were also making videos and uploading videos on YouTube for fun at that time.
The real insight happened in Mexico, where Lilly was in for vacation after coming out of depression. When answering a question about when did she think of becoming a YouTuber she said-
I can tell you the exact moment it happened. I had a few videos out at that time and I was coming out of a state of depression and I was confused. I was on a vacation in Mexico with my family and going for a walk – it was so like Bollywood – sat at the beach and had a talk with myself. I think for the first time I asked myself – ‘What makes you happy? What do you want to do?’ And the answer was: ‘Entertaining people makes me really happy.’ ‘What am I doing right now that involves that? I am making YouTube videos. So let’s put all my effort into that and see where it goes.’ The second I flew back home, I started making YouTube videos.
There is no looking back after that for her. It’s not that she became famous overnight but her perseverance and the joy of making videos kept her going even in times when her videos were not getting many views or subscribers.
“Every video and every tweet has counted,” she told Marie Claire magazine. “My climb was slow. I took the stairs, not the escalator.”
Today she has two channel on YouTube. One is called ‘Superwoman’ with more than 14 million subscribers and other is ‘Superwomanvlogs’ with close to 3 million subscribers. Forbes Magazine has listed her as the highest paid female YouTuber and overall third highest paid YouTuber in the world with 7.5 million dollars per year.
When someone asked her what makes your videos so appealing to people? She said-
I think it’s the relatability. I think what people like about my channel is that I am not perfect. I always point to my pimple, my bad hair day…people relate to that. They are watching somebody who is exactly like them and talking about things that they experience as well.
Today Lilly has worked with some of the most influencing people on the earth from Bill Gates to Michelle Obama to Selena Gomez to Dwayne Johnson and many more. She is also a Goodwill Ambassador of ‘UNICEF’ and helping empower girls all over the world.
On asking what she meant by ‘freedom of expression’ she gave a beautiful answer-
No matter what I put out, somebody will be offended. I made a video on 10 reasons to smile, and it has dislikes. That should be an indication that there will be some who get offended no matter what you do. The best you can do as an entertainer or as someone who performs is to follow what you believe in.
You can’t really do anything else. If you say ‘I don’t want to offend anyone’ then don’t get on stage. Just ask yourself ‘Do I think it is right? Do I think it is offensive? And do I think that everyone is okay to hear this? If I truly believe this then I should go and do this.’
The story of a woman who becomes the most entertaining Youtuber from a confused and depressed teenager teaches us a lot of lessons. Let’s distill some of them.
- Exploration is the best way to find out your passion/calling
Just like Lilly most of us remain confused at our teenage years about what to do in life, what am I good at? But merely thinking about it not give any solution we must try our hands at different things to find out what suits us. Imagine if Lilly Singh would have never tried making videos on YouTube and did his masters in psychology, her life would have been completely different. It’s her choice to explore YouTube that made her fall in love with YouTube. Your passion is hidden inside multiple layers. The more you explore, the more you get close to that.
2. Persevarance is the key
Perseverance is probably the most important factor in anybody’s success. Lilly Singh shows us the same. Her first video got just 70 views, but she started making even more videos after that. Although initial days were not great but she kept making videos as she loved to do that. For all of us we feel many times to give up at what we are doing, the only thing that can keep us going is the love towards what we are doing and the bigger picture (the why) of what we are doing.
3. Your background should not define you
Many of us born in some place, brought up in another place and then work in another place. In all these endeavors we come across different culture and people. Many times people try to restrict us by defining us with our background. It’s very important you connect your identity with something bigger. We should be universal not defined by a particular race, religion, or place.
When Lilly started her YouTube career western media used to define her as an Indian girl who is also getting views and stuff. But very soon she realized that she don’t need to be defined always by her background. She said-
“Earlier on my videos used to be so geared towards Indian people because that’s what I thought I had to do”. “So I would call my videos things like ‘My Indian Parents Do This’ or ‘Indian Girls This’ and very quickly I realized that I didn’t have to do that. All the girls are pretty much the same and all parents are pretty much the same, so I stopped doing that and I stopped cornering myself into a niche that I thought I had to be in.”
4. Success comes with a cost
You should define your own success, not other people. What is a success for other people may not be for you. For some people having a big house, an expensive car and a luxurious lifestyle is a success but for you, just these may not be the success. Every success comes with some sacrifice, some cost.
If you want that Ferrari may you need to work even on weekends, maybe you have to lose your sleep a little bit. If you want to be famous then maybe you have to compromise with your privacy, you will be constantly chased by people everywhere. Define your success by yourself, what kind of life you want to live?
Lilly said it best-
“When I was younger, I had this fairy tale that you can have eight hours of sleep and be a healthy, balanced, person and still achieve your goals,” she told Vogue. “That hasn’t always been the case. On an average day, I will spend 90% of my waking moments working on Superwoman. I’m a huge workaholic. My hobby is Superwoman.”
5. Be humble and open minded always
Warren Buffet said-
“Humility is the first step towards learning. You can’t learn until you are humble enough to realize there is something for you to learn.”
Continuous growth is the secret to maintain success. And to grow continuously one need to learn continuously. The success of Lilly Singh over the years shows us exactly this. She has collaborated with some of the most influencing people whether it is Dwayne Johnson (The Rock), Bill Gates or Michelle Obama. The Knowledge and wisdom she gathered from her own experience and from other wise people helped her remain in the ground and learn continuously.
This superwoman has even written a book to describe her journey and help others in their journey-
I am posting one of her interviws where she reveals many insights-
We all are at some point of our life confused, anxious, sometimes even depressed like Lilly Singh. It’s our connection with our inner being, our courage, our appetite for exploration and learning can make us a superwoman or superwoman.
Wish all of you a great new year and may this new year bring the superwoman or superwoman from within us.
Have a great week. See you in the next year. With Love -Joy