Personal Growth

Are you looking for your passion – Be careful!


How can I spend a life fulfilled with joy, Jubilance, and satisfaction?                               

If you ask this question to anyone, maximum chances are their people will say ‘ find your passion, do what you love ‘.

It becomes more popular after the speech of Steve Jobs at Stanford University where he said

You have got to find what you love….The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking and don’t settle.’  

Well, I am also one of the fan of that speech by Steve Jobs and believed strongly in passion hypothesis until recently I came across a book by Cal Newport ( I am now a fan of this man) where he suggested ‘Do what Steve Jobs did, not what he said‘.  

Steve Jobs had no passion regarding electronics or business at his earlier age, he studied western history and dance and dabbled in Eastern mysticism.

And not only Jobs but if you look at the life of any successful person, the majority of them had no predefined passion. They eventually found it with time.

In fact, giving someone the advice ‘follow your passion’ can be dangerous sometimes.        

One might think their predefined passion (or right career) will appear to them like a flash of light, they just have to wait for that passion until they find it hopeless and stuck.  

Professor and author Cal Newport calls this ‘passion trap‘. He argues the reason so many people are miserable at their work is that they have ascribed to a misguided expectation: that once you find your passion everything will fall into place, it will be a smooth ride from thereon. Whereas the reality is not that smooth.

So the major question is what should we do if not to just follow passion?       

The author suggests three rules to find your a career that you love

1. Importance of skill- Passion is not the starting point, it’s the side effect of mastery. If you need some fulfilled and great career you need to offer some rare and valuable skills.

Whereas a passion mindset thinks like ‘what the world can offer me’, we should embrace a craftsman mindset, who focuses on ‘what I can offer to the world’. And to gain those rare and valuable skills you need deliberate practice. Athletes, Musicians, Chess players do the same.

2. The power of Control – Even with a craftsman mindset you may not feel great about your career if you don’t have control over what you do.

It’s being a proven fact now that giving people more control over what they do and how they do it increases their happiness, engagement, and sense of fulfillment.                                                                            

However, there are control traps, it is dangerous to pursue more control in your working life before you have enough skills to offer in exchange.

The second control trap which warns, once you have enough skills to acquire more control in your working life you have become valuable enough to gain more autonomy.

When you have enough skills (which are valuable, one easy way to find it is whether people are willing to pay in return to the skills you offer) people will still try to keep you on a more traditional path, whereas gaining more control on of your career might be good for you. So think carefully before choosing or changing your working life.

3. The Importance of mission- It’s very difficult to lead to a satisfying life for a long time if we don’t have any unifying mission in our life (which should not be just about yourself).                        

But again to have a mission or purpose we must first have rare and valuable skills to offer ( which we can develop). Only when we develop the required skills in our fields, we can take steps to fulfill a mission. 

So what I have learned from this great book named ‘So good they can’t ignore you‘ is that the term Passion is very overrated. It’s very unlikely to have a preexisting passion in our lives.

Passion can be developed. We must first focus to earn skills that are valuable. Even having skills and getting good is not enough, you have to use your ability wisely by seeking more control over your work.

It requires little courage but returns great rewards. And finally, to lead a satisfying life we must use our skills to fulfill a purpose or mission which gives meaning to our work.                                               

Moreover not necessarily people can have a single centric passion. One can be good at several things. sometimes passion changes with time.                                                          

So next time if someone asks you to find your passion, just say ‘the process is underway’.        

Have a great career. with♥ 


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  • halfwaydot

    Very nice idea about the passion…you nicely explained why successful people usually never excel in thier qualified passion and they did miracle in other areas than their passion.
    I think society enforces us to choose our passion…and when you are pursuing something out of your happiness it will destroy your peace…but still this condition shows you the path you waive for yourself….I know broadly two paths one is materialism and another is spiritualism…rest are the subset of these..
    Well, nicely written…hats off.

    • Joy

      Thank you so much for your nice words. I think society do play a big role the way we think, even subconsciously. It’s always a challenge to think without any bias. The word passion is just an example. We used to think about our passion first than doing it rather than first doing than analyse whether it is our passion or not. The best way is to explore as much as you can and who knows you may find a passion about which you don’t even know at this moment.

      • halfwaydot

        yes…you are absolutely right…my upbringing makes my base…when i realised that I too can make decisions…then my peers come into the picture…..I have gone to the past models and present models also….I was trapped between then something called as spiritual knowledge always helps me to balance me between them…I always realise an instantaneous changes which sometimes overwhelms me..

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